How To Determine If You Are A “Winner” Or A “Loser”
> You become a winner or a loser by how you think and the choices you make
> Being a winner or a loser has nothing to do with genetics or economic status
> You can become a winner by changing your mind and your thinking
“Reality Is Created By The Mind. We can Change Our Reality By Changing Our Mind”- Plato
Why are some people considered “winners” while others are considered pathetic “losers?” This is a phenomenon that I have often thought about and studied.
Although there are multiple reasons why this occurs, I have come to the conclusion that the number one reason is that “winners” think significantly different than “losers.”
THOUGHTS LEAD TO BEHAVIOR -BEHAVIOR LEADS TO RESULTS/OUTCOMES
Winners are described as:
Yes, genetics and environment have something to do with outcome. You did not choose where to be born. You were born with some predetermined genetic material. But, you were not born a “winner” or a “loser.” You become a “winner” or a “loser” by your thought processes and the choices you make.
However, the primary factor is how the person thinks that determines whether they are a loser or a winner.
First, let’s define what a “winner” looks like. Most people know what a “winner” looks like if you ask them.
They are people whom you look up to. They are valued in society. They have integrity and command respect. They treat people well and contribute positively to society. They tend to be people who have high values.
Winners are people who do their best in their jobs. They may create businesses, write books, create art etc. They care about other people. They are selfless.
If you were in need, they would not hesitate to help you. “They would give you the shirt off their backs.”
They care about their environment. They operate from a “win/win” mentality. These people tend to do better financially.
Who do you know in your family, work place, or in society that you think about as being a winner? I’m sure someone comes to mind.
Losers are described as:
“Losers” on the other hand, are looked at negatively by society. They tend not to have any integrity and therefore don’t get any respect. They often are not high achievers. They tend to take more from society than they give back. They often have frequent contact with the law.
Their thinking is such that, if you were to leave your purse on a table unattended, they would steal it and then blame you for being stupid enough for leaving it on the table. Therefore, you deserve to have it stolen!
They tend not to do as well financially. Instead, they continue to perpetuate an attitude of helplessness, and victim-hood.
People in mainstream society tend to avoid these types of persons. If this type of person is walking toward us on the sidewalk, we may decide to cross the street just to avoid them.
A loser might also be the “Bernie Madoff” who tries to con you into investing in his Ponzi scheme.
Who comes to mind when you think of a “loser?”
Being a winner or a loser has nothing to do with social status. There are rich winners, just as there a poor winners. There are rich losers, just as there are poor losers.
It has to do more with thinking and behavior than with financial status.
“The mind is everything. What you think you become.”- Buddha
Let’s contrast the difference between “Winners” and “Losers”:
Think they CAN Think they CAN’T
Take responsibility Blame others
Give more than they take Take more than they give
Are compassionate for others Don’t care about anyone but themselves
Care about the environment Pollute the environment with smoke, litter
Can delay gratification Require immediate gratification
Earn what they get Feel they are owed what they get
Never use or abuse drugs Use or abuse drugs or alcohol
Associate with positive people Associate with negative people
Give to society Take from society
Never quit! Are quitters!
Have positive values (integrity, honesty) Have negative values (lie, cheat, steal)
If I help you win, then I win too! Do it to others before they do it to you!
As you can see, there are significant distinctions between Winners and Losers.
Which side of the equation are you on?
Whichever side you manifest often determines how you will experience the world. One side or the other can often predict your success in life.
If you think and behave as on the “Winner” side you will likely experience life as fulfilling and rewarding.
If you think and behave as on the “Loser” side, you will likely experience life negatively and harshly. It is fortunate that nothing is set in stone. You can always change your thinking, your behavior and thus change your life!
“You are the master of your destiny. You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be.” – Napoleon Hill
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There are countless “Winners” in the game of life who rejected their genetic handicaps, stepped out of their environmental ghetto, and opened the door to their personal fulfillment!
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To your success,
David C Figueroa- Success Coach
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